Anonymous on :
Perhaps "Willowy" refers more to the Weeping Willow.
She may be a very weepy woman.
She may be a very weepy woman.
Sunday, August 14. 2005I need some help understanding women
So at my family reunion, one of my aunts told me that she had a girl that she had been "dying" to introduce me to. So I said, sure here is my email address, have her contact me. Now here is where I need the help.
My aunt described her as "willowy". Which I took to mean as slender and graceful. So in my first email I told her that my aunt had called her willowy, and then I asked her (as a joke), since she was willowy, if she had to prune herself often. She replied and said that she would classify anorexic and willowy close together. On a side note, she then said that she was probably thicker like an oak tree. So what is that supposed to mean? I don't inderstand women. Please help! Trackbacks
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Wren, who knows. on :
Ah haha hahahah.
Rule number one: girls are dumb. Rule number two: insecure girls often like to tell others that they are not as thin or attractive as they could/should be. In most cases, they are fishing for compliments; in rare and disturbing cases they are serious. These constant 'modest' declarations of one's own body type/size become so habitual that girls will make them to people who haven't even met them yet and therefore have no opinion as to what body type/size they actually are in the The Real World. This girl seems to have a stricter and more expective idea of words like 'thin' 'willowy' and 'skinny'. Most likely, she does not think that she qualifies as any of the above, and might be bitter about it. Or she knows a few women she WOULD label with these qualities, and she doesn't like them--thus she has generated a *negative* schema of girls who are thin, and lashes out at them by labeling them with eating disorders. What she's saying is: I would consider 'willowy' as a descriptive word of someone who is unhealthily underweight. I am not unhealthily underweight (or at least I don't feel I am; perhaps I am bitter and striving for a 'perfect' image of myself that requires me to lose 15 more pounds), therefore I would not use the word 'willowy' to describe *myself*. I will tell you in a half-joking sort of way that I'm more like an oak tree, because they are thick, which will either tell you that I am down-to-earth about my weight and I know I'm not supermodel material, or I really am thin and graceful and have the potential to develop an eating disorder. Now, when you actually meet her, and you can see for yourself whether or not she is thin, you will know whether or not she has an eating disorder. If she is more of an average body type/size, then consider her to be practical and in good humor. If she is actually thin, be very careful around her. Especially about comments centered on subjects of appearance or eating. If she is REALLY thin, RUN AWAY. She has issues that she needs to work out, and you getting involved will just hurt both of you a lot more than you need to be hurt. The only thing you can really know from her reply is that *she* does not think that *she, herself* is thin. Good luck, my friend. radar on :
You might be on to something...
Ancient Of Days on :
Personally, I find that the only thing you can ever really know about women is that they are unknowable, primarily because they do not know themselves...they don't have a considered approach to their own lives that would allow you to infer anything from their words or actions.
Of course, this is a gross generalization, and as such, is only useful in the general case. :) Sideshow on :
Radar, the only question you should ask that matters is whether or not she is in primary?
kermit on :
umm... maybe you should just not mention the "need to prune herself" anymore. That just doesn't sound good at all.
And some girls don't like to shave. Daboo on :
Actually, I think you're exactly wrong. Women have such a fine-tuned method of intercommunication that we *expect* inferences from *all* our words and actions, and yours as well--and get upset and confused when you "pretend" to be clueless about what we thought was a very clear non-verbal signal between us.
And how do we not have a considered approach to our lives, whereas men do?? some guy on :
A very rich man once went up to a hobo on the street and said:
"I will give you anything you want" The hobo then responded: "A bridge to Europe so i can drive to see my family" The rich man then responded: "That would take a very long time. How about something more sensible" The hobo then said: "How about a complete understanding of women?" The rich man then responded: "How many lanes do you want on that bridge?" |
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